Advice Thread

[Ikari_no_Ojo]

I was thinking that, no matter where we come from or what walks of life we hail from, that we can all offer some advice to those in need. In this thought I decided to create this thread. Because we all go through rough times, we all suffer from things that are difficult to speak of. But we as The Mad Family are here to support each other, to give each other a place to turn to in dark times.

Because as Maya has said "The mark of your pain & tears is beautiful,
because it has made you what you are today"

[Kei]

This is such a lovely idea ( ; A ;)

I've said many times, to people who have been having a bad day, or have a problem, that I'm always here for you guys to talk to if you need someone!

I can't promise I'll always say the right thing, But I'll be there to listen and I'll never judge you for anything. I'm once of those extremely open-minded people. So please don't worry about talking to me no matter what your problem is!

No matter who you are, where you are, what time it is, you can always contact me and I'll listen, and try my best to help

[Ikari_no_Ojo]

I suppose I'll be the first to post in the advice thread.

I am not one to speak of personal things lightly, I like to handle things on my own, but I've come to realize that doing so is unhealthy at times.

My home life is turbulent and harsh. I come from a home with a verbally abusive father, something that has become more prevelant with recent years.

At first he took his anger out on my mother, but than when my sister was born, it became her burden. For 24 years she has been told that she was 'worthless' 'stupid' 'the cause for all the problems in the house'. She was told that life would be better without her here. And in the past 4 years she has been in and out of apartments constantly to get away from him.

My father has gotten worse, taken to kicking in two of our doors in an attempt to get to my sister. One of those doors, our bathroom door, has been kicked in twice and now no longer locks. On top of this, my sister has been in and out of abusive relationships because of my father. He has ruined her future relationships because of his treatment of her. He has also kicked her shin and pushed her so far. A life of therapy is ahead of her

My mother, on the other hand, is broken to the point of learned hopelessness. She has been called a 'piece of sh*t' 'stupid' and on top of other things. And I love my mother and sister more than anything in this world.

Then comes down to me. Up until recently I have been spared my father's scorn. But the other day he had finally snapped at me, calling me a 'b*tch' 'a dumbass' and upon taking away my computer , he told my sister that her and I were both 'defective'.

And upon my mother's arrival home, she tried to get my computer back. He responded to her by telling her 'I am disappointed in how the girls turned out. I wish I could have new ones. But I am stuck with them'. And it hurts, to know that your father hates you with every fiber of his being. I may never truly get over hearing those words.

We live in a shattered home, I call it shattered because calling it 'broken' would mean it could be fixed. This home cannot be fixed.

I wanted to share my story so that maybe some of you out there can relate and know that you aren't alone.

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